“Which one of you is the author?”

My sister and mother discretely deferred in my direction and I smiled at the council worker.

“Oh! I bought your book. I had to order it through the bookshop. It is so lovely, such a wonderful message it sends.”

“Thank you.”

Ordinarily, this kind of exchange would have me dribbling with pleasure. On this occasion, however, I had to shake my head over the incongruity. Should I laugh? Grimace? Still be just as pleased?

You see, we were standing in the middle of my local cemetery, at the plot we’d just chosen for my father, who – as chance would have it – will be laid to rest just a few metres away from his uncle and down the hill from his mother and father.

The ground is squishy and we need to tread carefully through the grass. I come from a state parched and scorched to an area affected by flooding. The river is up, and I watch it swirl nastily around exposed tree roots. There are still a few streets closed.

In the end I think I’ve decided to just…let it all be. Take it all as it comes. People have told me – and I know it to be true – that dad was extremely proud of the accomplishments my sister and I have made in life, my book only being the most recent. So I daresay he was listening in to the little exchange and rather than feel confused about the appropriateness of the setting, I should perhaps think there might be no better place for it.

Because he will be still smiling.

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Karen Andrews is the creator of this website, one of the most established and well-respected parenting blogs in the country. She is also an author, award-winning writer, poet, editor and publisher at Miscellaneous Press. Her latest book is Trust the Process: 101 Tips on Writing and Creativity